Every day people grapple with the question, “Who should pay on a first date?” There is no simple, straightforward answer. Ultimately, there are three distinct viewpoints on the matter.
On the one hand, many people support the universally accepted belief that a man should pick up the tab on every date. These people assert that although it may seem outdated to follow such a conventional standard, there is nothing wrong with a little chivalry. Rather than viewing it as a gendered act, they view it as an act of courtesy.
On the other hand, many women who identify as feminists feel guilty for abiding by this traditional belief. They argue that this undermines their intelligence and independence. They encourage all strong women to offer to split the check, or even pay entirely. Even if her date refuses, it shows her generosity.
Finally, many people believe that whoever initiates the date should pick up the bill. More specifically, since the person who chooses the date spot is aware of and comfortable with its prices, he/she should pay.
Lamore Morris, an actor on the hit show New Girl, explains, “I don’t mind paying at all. I’m from the Midwest, where it’s a guy’s job to court a woman. It shows I can take care of you. Still, if a woman came out and told me, ‘I want to split it with you—that’s my cause,’ I would admire it 100 percent.”
Regardless, once a solid relationship is established, these rules shouldn’t apply. Two people in a loving partnership should switch off paying the bill. It’s only fair!
Written by Cassidy Zuber