It’s easy to fall head over heels for someone who appears great on paper. It’s harder to recognize when there’s a lack of compatibility in your relationship. Ultimately, we’re all picky when it comes to finding “the one”. Often, we prioritize superficial qualities rather than focusing on the importance of developing a genuine connection. We fantasize about being with the ideal person; someone who’s wealthy, smart, attractive and ambitious. Consequently, we write off people who do not meet every requirement on our imaginary checklist.
We’re not suggesting that you settle for someone unworthy of your greatness! We simply believe that if you’re having doubts about your picture-perfect relationship, you should consider the chemistry you have with each other off of the page. It’s important to prevent yourself from focusing solely on your partner meeting superficial standards. Consider the way your partner makes you feel. Your partner should add excitement to your life, give you confidence, and love every one of your flaws. If your partner fails to make you feel that “spark”, then it’s time to move on!
Additionally, it’s easy to notice early on whether your partner is willing to commit to a long-term, loving relationship. It is essential to take any relationship slow in the beginning. You should refrain from labeling your relationship until you’re sure that you two are compatible and have similar intentions. If your partner is evasive when you ask about your future together, that’s a red flag.
While this isn’t a complete deal breaker, it’s an indication that you should remain cautious regarding your partner’s actions. After all, this is the first sign that your partner is unlikely to fight for your relationship when the going gets tough. Similarly, if you partner doesn’t provide emotional support when you’re struggling either at work or in your personal life, it’s likely that he/she isn’t serious about your relationship. Ultimately, people reveal themselves through their actions.
Sometimes it’s important to recognize when your relationship isn’t working out. In these cases, it’s better to cut it off before you become completely attached. After all, you’re better off alone then with someone who doesn’t make you feel supported and special.
When you’re in a committed relationship you shouldn’t be consumed by doubt. For starters, if you’re even slightly suspicious that your partner is cheating, it’s time to cut and run! However, if you’re unsure about the faithfulness of a prospective love interest, establish open and honest channels of communication. Simply start a conversation about your partner’s dating history. If he/she has cheated in the past, it is likely that it will happen again. Like they say, once a cheater, always a cheater. On the other hand, if she/he has been cheated on in the past, it is likely that he/she wouldn’t cheat on another person.
It is important to determine whether you and your partner have the same morals and values. If you do, then you can relax knowing that you can trust one another.
Written by Cassidy Zuber