Written by: Elizabeth Hamilton
Well, it’s June and that means summer is finally here! Long sunny days, beach trips with friends and evening barbeques are all staples of the season. But the warm weather can thaw something often forgotten during the chilly winter: love and romance.
For many, summer is a time to let your hair down and embrace the single life with a hot fling. For others, it is a time to find sweet summer love. Check out our read to see which path will make your summer sizzle…
1) What’s your priority this summer?
Is it work? Your friends? Or yourself? (We won’t judge)
Before heading into a summer fling, make sure that you know what you’re hoping to get out of this season. If you’re looking to further your career and are planning on spending a lot of late nights at the office, maybe don’t try to land a summer beau right now. But, if you want to find a special someone to picnic with at Central Park, maybe you should ask that cute guy for his number (of course, there’s nothing wrong with a picnic with your pals). And if you are focusing on yourself and finding what makes you happy like joining clubs and staying active in your neighborhood- you could meet your summer beau at any moment.
2) What do you want to get out of a summer fling?
Someone to go on dates with? Someone to hold your hand? Sex?
Whoever your summer fling, you should first think about what you’re looking to get out of a significant other (or maybe a not-so-significant S/O). Have some boundaries established in your mind that way you and your summer boo can be on the same page. Make sure that you aren’t trying to get something out of a summer fling that your summer S/O won’t be able to give you. If you’re looking for love and she or he is just looking for sex, both of you could end up hurt.
3) Who are you thinking of?
That cutie at work? Someone in your apartment building? A co-worker?
When you’re thinking about who you might want to cuddle up with this summer, keep your expectations in mind. If you’re looking for something short-term, maybe your co-worker – or anyone else you would have to see on a regular basis after things end – isn’t the best idea. Of course, make sure you’re with someone who respects you and treats you right – and make sure you treat them right in return!
4) What’s going to happen this fall?
Are you going to break up? Stay together? See other people?
Summer romances can be fun in the moment, but when chilly autumn reality comes back you want to make sure you’ll be okay. There’s no predicting the future, and you should definitely leave yourself open to whatever happiness this person could bring you (and the happiness that you could bring them). However, when the time comes to decide what you want to do once fall arrives, make sure you talk with your partner. Be open and honest about what you want, and listen to how they feel too. If you both decide to go your separate ways, great! You’ve had a fun summer with a fun somebody. If you decide that you want to transition your summer fling into something more serious, keep an eye out for our next blog post for some tips and advice. 😉
No matter what you decide to do this summer, remember to enjoy yourself! Summer is a time to work hard, play hard and love hard – and that can mean loving yourself, your friends and your family.