Today, labels have a negative stigma. More often than not, people, even those who are serious about the person they’ve been seeing, refrain from defining their relationship. So, if they’re not interested in pursuing others, why the hesitation? What’s the fear?
- People believe that it will change the course of their seemingly easy relationship. They believe that it will lead to unnecessary jealousy and issues that did not exist before.
- People refrain from labeling their relationship in an attempt to avoid rushing into something too serious. Generally, they are fearful that they will be stuck in a long-term relationship with someone they don’t see a future with.
- People assert that there are expectations and unspoken rules that follow once you’re in a relationship. If either partner fails to follow these rules, it presents the question, “Are they a bad boyfriend/girlfriend?”
- People believe that it adds a lot of extra pressure. Having to care for yourself and another person can obviously be stressful at times!
- People argue that there is no happy medium—once you’re in a relationship there are only two paths: to break up eventually or get married.
- People don’t understand the purpose of labels. They think that having an unspoken agreement to casually date is enough. Labels complicate everything.
On the other hand, there are many people who support defining a relationship. However, they assert that prematurely applying labels is often detrimental. They believe that the perfect time to discuss future plans is after a few months of dating. It is essential to ensure that you and your love interest are compatible before entering a committed partnership.
Overall, just because you don’t define it, doesn’t mean others won’t. You cannot escape the inevitable if you want to progress as a couple!
Written by Cassidy Zuber