Use Your Five Senses To Spice Up Your Lovelife
By Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher
If you’re looking for ways to spice up your love life, why not use what’s already available to you? Take advantage of your five senses – taste, sight, hearing, touch and smell – and get the most out of your relationship.
Taste: Make dinner together. If one of you is more Chef Boyardee than Julia Child, you can still keep your spouse company – and perhaps even get a good laugh out of your culinary mishaps.
Related Link: Date Idea: Expand Your Tastes
Sight: Plan a regular date night. A romantic outing is something you can both look forward to. Plus, it’s a way to transport yourselves back to when you first met. Be spontaneous too. Every once in a while, do something together in the spur of the moment. Breaking away from your routine adds excitement to your relationship, and the experience, whether it’s a surprise day trip or just an impromptu picnic in the backyard, it will bring the two of you closer together.
Hearing: Always talk or text at some point during the day. Whenever you can, take a few minutes out of your busy schedule to say hello to your significant other. Even a text that says something like “hope you’re having a good day” shows that you’re thinking of him. Most people spend more time at work than at home, so it’s important to stay connected to your loved ones.
Touch: Go for a walk, either a hike on a nearby trail or a stroll down a city street. The dynamic scenery may inspire a philosophical conversation about your plans for the future, or you may feel content to just enjoy the view as you walk hand-in-hand. Getting in touch with both your surroundings and each other will reignite any spark that’s been missing.
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Smell: Make putting on your favorite scent part of your morning routine, like brushing your teeth and washing your face. You want to be remembered and thought of throughout the day, so always make sure you smell your best. Remember that oils last longer than perfumes and can even be worn with perfume to enhance your own scent and allure. The power of smell is seductive.
To ignite your sense of smell, check out the new love oil created by Project Soulmate matchmakers Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher. grav.i.tate is the perfect aphrodisiac to spice up your love life, whether first thing in the morning or for a sexier vibe in the evening.
Top 3 Mistakes Men Make On The First Date
Celebuzz featured Lori Zaslow of Project Soulmate back in 2012, discussing mistakes men make on their first date which can prevent them from finding “the one”.
(see the original article here)
Lori Zaslow believes that love is as essential to living as air. On Bravo’s reality series, Love Broker, the matchmaker helped men understand how to make their best first impression in order to snag that all-important love match.
“They definitely improve,” Zaslow tells Celebuzz of her clients who listen to her advice. “If they took the skills and the feedback and were able to implement it, even if it wasn’t like sparks everywhere, at least they knew maybe how to act a little more present or put their best foot forward or smell better or whatever the situation was, and they took the advice.”
Of course, before love can happen, men have to get the all-important second date. Zaslow clues Celebuzz’s readers in on the three biggest mistakes men make on first dates – take a look at her list below.
1. Not being present. “They’re on their Blackberry, or they’re thinking about work, or thinking about a past relationship, rather than just being in the moment,” Zaslow explains.
2. Giving up too soon. “Men really do work outside in and they’re much more visual creatures, which is fine and fair,” she points out. “But I think sometimes, they don’t give a second chance like a woman would. They cut it off right then and there. And sometimes I see with my clients, the minute the attraction’s not there, they can’t give that kindness and positive energy to the date.”
3. Giving in to fear of rejection. “[Men are] so much more afraid of rejection that they don’t always respond with their emotions,” the Project Soulmate co-founder tells us. “So, they might not let a girl back. For instance, right now, I have a client that’s like, ‘You know what, I emailed her Sunday and I waited until Wednesday and texted her.’ Why would you wait? That’s three or four days, another guy’s going to get right in there and that’s it, she’s off the market.”
Project Soulmate: Long Term Relationship Tips
Two important tips for improving your long term relationship with your partner.
Tip 1: Let there be space in your togetherness.
Tip 2: Disconnect with your partner if you want to connect. (And we mean disconnect the electronics!)
Improve Your Long Term Relationship
One tenet to live by: give one another space–it’s important to honor your partner’s needs. Sometimes when someone gets home from work, they need 10 minutes to relax. The second they walk in the door andthey don’t want to answer questions like, “Did you pay the phone bill?” or “We need to send your Mom the thank you card today!” By giving them that 10 minutes, they will be more responsive and engaged as the night goes on. It is also important to remember all of the little things. Once you and your partner are comfortable with each other, that doesn’t mean you get out of dressing nice, doing your hair and expressing your feelings on a regular basis. Keeping a relationship thriving in a positive way is paying attention to details and allowing the relationship to continuously flourish.
(Dis) Connect with Your Partner
One of the most important ways to connect with your partner is to turn off all electronics. Phones, computers, iPads and other electronic devices can put up a barrier between you and your partner. By putting them away, this barrier comes down and a face to face connection is automatically made. Try and have a date night every week, just the two of you. Treat yourselves to alone time together and do something fun! Go for a walk, try something new like ice skating, or play a game of ping pong! You can exercise together by taking a bike ride or taking a spin class. Keep it light and exciting. Talk the night away about anything and everything, stay smiling and laughing and just enjoy yourselves and each others company!
An Interview: All About Project Soulmate with Arthur Kade
Clipped from the adorably sweet Arthur Kade:
Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher are two of the country’s best matchmakers, and after finishing up their first season of Bravo’s “LoveBroker”, two well known reality stars. With their matchmaking business “Project Soulmate”, they have established themselves as NYC’s elite matchmaking combo, reliable and edgy TV Personalities that appear on various TV Shows, and as they perfectly put it, their mission is “to deliver high quality, meaningful matches that have a genuine potential for love. Whether this is your first real romance or a second chance at love, Project Soulmate is passionate to help you meet your other half.”
Here “The King Of Kamelot” sits down with the awesome and extremely funny Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher of Project Soulmate and Bravo’s “LoveBroker” in NYC to talk about how they have become one of the country’s leading matchmaking businesses, what the experience on their first season of Bravo was like, how they met and started working together, who they would hook me up with, and what lies ahead. I have to say that I LOVED these two, and can’t wait to see them on TV again soon!!
Do Couples Who Workout Together… Work Out?
Originally written for the Dasha Wellness NYC blog October 11, 2012
Fitness couples. You know ‘em. The hot couple working out together at the gym, prepping for a marathon in Central Park, or going mountain climbing or hiking as their weekend activity. However, sometimes these “fitness couples” get a bad rap. Why is this? Maybe it makes everyone else bitter/jealous that more often than not we spend time eating, having cocktails, and sitting on the couch with our significant other and secretly wishing we were more active together? I’d say that whatever a couple likes to do together is a good thing. Outsiders should MYOB .
Whether or not a couple works out together really depends on the couple- there is no need to keep this aspect of life separate! If fitness is something that you both enjoy, then of course, do it together! One of my favorite ways to spend time with my husband is when I roller blade and he runs! However, when giving advice to someone planning a first date, I never suggest planning anything too active or outdoorsy. It is way too much pressure on daters to prove themselves right off the bat! A first date should be relaxed where the couple can make eye contact.
After couples have been dating for a while, a situation that can cause the relationship to run into trouble is when one person pressures the other to work out or tone up. Clearly fitness is important for good health, but I think pressure of any kind isn’t a good thing. A person will become resentful, and chances are, your request will backfire. Everyone is the boss of his or her own body, so don’t project your insecurity onto your partner. However, if your partner is complaining about wanting to tone up or get in shape, then by all means offer ideas!
Until next time,
xoxo Lori Zaslow
Matchmaker & Co-Founder
Choosing The Perfect Matching Service For YOUR Love Life
HOW TO CHOOSE THE BEST MATCHMAKER FOR YOUR LOVE LIFE
Dating Interview: As Matchmakers We Represent You with Lori Zaslow & Jennifer Zucher
see the original MyTreat interview here
Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher are the duo behind, Project Soulmate, one of Manhattan’s premier matchmakers for elite singles. They were also the stars of the Bravo TV reality show, Love Brokers. Today we were able to track them down and pick their brains on the world of matchmaking.
How does Project Soulmate, your professional matchmaking service, work? What’s the process like when someone comes to you and says “help me find someone”?
Our client base is made up of commitment minded men and women from the New York tri-state area and South Florida who have put their love lives in our hands; our database is populated with individuals who are looking for their other half and our process has a proven track record of success.
The first thing we do is meet with them, get to know them and see if there is a mutual connection. We want to make sure we are in sync and that we can find what they are looking for. We want to make sure our expectations are in line.
Sites like eharmony have long surveys they make people fill out and based on computer algorithms they figure out who matches with who. What’s different about how you guys approaching making matches?
Not only do we make people fill out a short questionnaire, we actually meet people one on one to learn about them, what they are looking for and we work together. There is no algorithm to love!
A lot of people like to play matchmaker whether they are good or not at it. What makes a good matchmaker?
Someone who is a great listener, unbiased, nonjudgmental, listening to what you have to say while learning what you need, who has a network different from your current network. People can’t be everywhere at once, so it’s our job to be at places where you can’t be…we represent you.
What should people be looking for in a matchmaker if they are considering using a formal one?
Someone who is in their city or town, feels you like connect with so they can commit to helping you, look for references and referrals. Someone that is open with you and doesn’t over promise.
How much matchmaking is actually coaching versus just finding them the “right” person? Does it ever happen where someone says they want XYZ in a person, but it turns out what they say they want isn’t necessarily good for them? How do you handle those situations?
We guide our clients, not coach our clients. We offer feedback and tell you what the other people really thought about you without a filter. We have an open rapport where we take on clients that we express; we listen to their needs and wants. When they start dating, they realize on their own, that XYZ personality traits might not compliment theirs. In the situations that things don’t work out our job is to handle it, we are hands on.
What do you think is biggest reason why people have trouble finding the right mate?
They think they are open and they are not. Also, not making love their first priority.
Connect with Lori or Jennifer:
Company Twitter: https://twitter.com/ProjectSoulmate
Lori’s Twitter: @LoriZaslow
Jennifer’s Twitter: @JennZucher
Listen up Ladies! 5 Things Men Wish You Knew
We’re always wondering what’s going on inside our guy’s head, but thanks to Shape Magazine, we may finally know the answer.
Interviewing over a dozen guys between the ages of 19 and 56, Shape got the scoop from men across the dating spectrum. Married, single and divorced, doctors, NFL players and music industry professionals—you name it, they asked him.
Bet you’re curious about what these men had to say! Well..
#1- When it comes to gift giving, as much as we would love to be surprised by our favorite Gucci handbag under the tree this Christmas, it’s just not going to happen.
Unless, of course, you help your man out! 32-year-old Richie Frieman says, “[If you don’t] give us a hint or just flat out tell us what you’d like, you are most likely going to end up with something unwanted.” His wife can certainly attest. Richie gave her tickets to a wrestling match for their anniversary because “she said she liked sports.” Oops!
#2-They get jealous too!
Not many men will admit this right off the bat, but according to NFL Linebacker Thomas Howard, “We don’t like when you’re laughing too hard at another man’s jokes.”
#3- Looks aren’t everything.
Haven’t we heard that one before? That’s because its true! Men and women can agree that physical attraction is only part of—a very small part of—what makes a relationship successful.
“If I want to be in a relationship with somebody, I need to have a deeper connection with them than just the physical. The best thing that a woman could do to attract me is to be herself.”—This is coming from pretty boy Aaron Carter, child superstar.
#4- Shopping isn’t so bad.
While your man may whine about going to Pottery Barn, most of the time he really doesn’t mind a trip to the mall or running a few errands. In fact, Celebrity Trainer Lalo Fuentes says, “We actually like going shopping with you…as long as you let us pick out your outfit.” Bribery goes a long way, ladies!
#5- They get insecure too!
We may get made fun of for spending so much time worrying about how we look, but as it turns out, men are just as self-conscious as women…especially at the gym. 34 year-old Chuck Hughes confesses, “At the gym, men…check themselves out in the mirror just as much as women do.” So the truth comes out!
Thanks for reading!
Olivia Poglianich & the Project Soulmate Team
To find out even more of these honest hotties had to say, visit http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/sex-and-love/14-things-men-wish-women-knew?page=1.
5 Ways To Spot Your Soulmate
5 Ways to Know You’ve Met Your Soulmate, According to Bravo’s Love Broker: Lori Zaslow
So, how do you know if he’s “the one” or not? That’s something only you can truly tell, but there are a few sure-fire signs that you’ve met your soulmate. We asked relationship expert Lori Zaslow, star of Bravo’s Love Broker (returning TONIGHT, July 24 at 10/9c) and co-founder of matchmaking service Project Soulmate, for her tips on finding success in love.
1. Consistency from the other person.
I think we’re all looking for that–someone who is giving you consistency and making you a top priority. To me, lasting love is your “soulmate.” It’s healthy. It’s normal. It’s good. You can’t know right away! It takes time to know someone’s moods. I don’t want to put my stamp on something that anyone would think is instant. At Project Soulmate, when someone is on the fence about a person they just met, we always encourage a second date. You just never know! That person could be your soulmate, and you just blew him off because there was no absolute magic right away.
2. Someone who is genuinely concerned.
He is genuinely concerned about you and asks ‘How was your day? How are you? How are you feeling?’ Everything is not one-sided. The person can sense your needs and wants more. You might not need to use words. Of course, in life we do need to use words to articulate, but he might have a stronger vibe if he’s your soulmate. It’s as if he said, “I knew you were feeling that today.”
3. The person is your best friend as much as he is your lover.
The attraction is there, but it’s balanced by a friendship. Without the friendship, the relationship will never sustain. So if it’s always hot and always about sexual relations–when it’s too much of anything–it’s not lasting. There’s a mutual love and respect when someone is your soulmate. That should be first of everything. When you’ve met your soulmate, you’re both giving 150 percent. If you’re each giving together, it’s 300 percent.
4. Your intuition plays a role.
It’s someone that your intuition is constantly reminding you that this is quality, this is different, and this is someone special. It’s someone that you want to make your top priority, and you want to give your all to, and someone you desire in a healthy way. The feeling of your heart falling every time you see him, every single time, waiting for the text. It’s the person that you think “Oh, this could be it!” It could feel like a different connection than you’ve ever felt. Sometimes you meet someone, and you’re like ‘I swear I know you from somewhere,’ or you feel an instant comfort. You could feel more comfortable with a guy you know three months than someone you were with for five years. It happens all the time. So when I use the word soulmate, I’m not saying it loosely, because there is definitely magic in that word.
5. The person listens to what you say and actually acts upon it.
When you love someone and care about someone, you want to be better for yourself, but also for that person. When you’re going to have a future with someone, the person’s health becomes your health. Your partner takes what you say with love. Words and actions should be one in the same, always. You don’t only say ‘I love you’ and expect him to know it. No, you show someone. Anything you do not protect, you lose. Go out of your way when it’s someone’s birthday or when someone got a promotion. Be there when he needs you to hold his hand. Show someone you love them, take care of him, protect him. Your soulmate is going to give his all all of the time. When your boyfriend travels, he’s going to let you know he cares. Through thick and thin, someone is going to love you whether you have makeup on or you don’t. Because money comes and goes, friends come and go, life comes and goes.
So, tell us! Do you think you’ve met your soulmate? What are some of your signs for knowing you’re with “the one?”
Project Soulmate on Blog Talk Radio
When finding that special someone seems to be impossible, this is when you bring on the best in Matchmaking in the team of Bravo TV’s Lori Zaslow and Jenn Zucher, collectively they are the founders of Project Soulmate.
Tune in to hear how its done.
Listen in and get many important questions answered during this detailed interview with Project Soulmate: Bravo’s Love Broker, Lori Zaslow and her business partner Jenn Zucher are featured on the UCW Radio Show, with the wonderful Louis Velasquez
Top 10 Dating DO’s and DON’Ts by Project Soulmate
From the founders of Project Soulmate, Lori Zaslow and Jennifer Zucher
1. Be positive and warm. Always smile. Do not be a Debbie Downer and check out when you are not feeling chemistry as it can come back and haunt you later. It is a small world and everybody knows everybody. Be your own PR person, because you never know if he will introduce you to his brother, cousin or friend. You always want to leave a good taste in someone’s mouth about you.
2. Be present and discuss. Nothing too deep. Ask about his hobbies and interests and keep it light. Do not interrogate a guy and act like a private investigator (where are you from, what do you do for a living, etc.). Never talk about the future because it will guarantee no future. Examples are getting married, kids or inviting him to a wedding in 6 months when you barely know each other.
3. When you are having a great time, do not stay too long. No more than an hour and a half should suffice because too long will turn into too much information and too much alcohol. Leave him desiring to see you again. Always leave on a high note. When things are going good– exit. If there is a connection he will pursue you.
4. Be thoughtful and initiate a plan. It is ok for a woman to plan a date, just not the first date. Do not always expect a man to do everything. He is not your father; he is the man you are dating. Men want love, attention and someone to be thoughtful as well.
5. Compliment a man. If he looks good and smells good, tell him! Everyone wants to feel good about him or herself.
6. Men are visual creatures. Dress sexy not provocative. A little leg and a little arm never hurt, but do not go overboard and send the wrong message. Leave a little to the imagination.
7. After a great date you can send a thank you text, but that is it! Do not smother a guy and over pursue. No one likes desperation in a woman.
8. Do not drink too much. Two drink maximum ladies! Any more, you become sloppy and no one likes that. A turn on is someone that can hold their own and still carry on a conversation.
9. Guys cannot stand a girl that is too chatty and catty. It is an automatic turn off. Another turn off is girls that nag. They like a girl that can hold a normal conversation and not just talk about other people.
10. Guys do not like when you compare your relationship to another. They do not want to hear about your friends and their relationships. Just remember, the male ego is fragile and needs to handled with care.
General rule of thumb–know your target audience. In the animal kingdom, you do not see zebras reproducing with monkeys. Know your type in terms of looks, personality, goals, interests, etc. Do not date a partier if that is not your thing, do not date a bore if you need personality and do not date a religious zealot if you never want to step foot in a church. You will just be wasting your time and will likely be doomed from the start. Guys (and people as whole) really just do not change much.